Getting lost

On most days the thought of getting lost is laced with anxiety and anger, we are a people who have a need for structure  and losing ourselves in the world definitely does not fit into that.

But sometimes getting lost is just what we need.

Whether it’s taking a wrong turn and discovering a beautiful spot in a city we have lived in our whole lives and never taken the time to fully explore, or travelling through a new country and just letting the flow take us wherever.

There is a certain magic to routine, it’s generally what helps us achieve big goals, but when we are stuck there is nothing more useful than smashing that routine to pieces and forcing ourselves into uncomfortable situations, a sort of mindfulness practice that pushes us to be in the moment and really allow our subconscious to work through issues without the constant nagging of our conscious mind.

So if you’re feeling unsure of what you need to do, go out and get a little lost, it’ll probably be the best decision you’ve ever made.

The evolving landscape of gaming

As the years roll by and gaming becomes more mainstream, it’s quite surprising to look at how much things have changed in the last 20 years.

When I was young, game tournaments were a rarity, usually being held in cramped little venues with a few dozen spectators, really only the most hardcore enthusiasts in attendance.

Nowadays, entire weekends are taken as thousands go in to watch professional gamers compete for million dollar prizes whilst hundreds of thousands more watch from the comfort of their homes.

Counter strike, league of legends, fortnite, overwatch and a host of other games have captured the mainstreams attention, creating a multitude of celebrities overnight through platforms like Twitch and Youtube, making rock stars out of what used to be the uncool geeks hiding in their parents house.

It really is fascinating to see this evolution, and the future of gaming will probably create an even greater disconnect from the past as technology advances towards full immersion gaming where people basically live within the online worlds companies create.

The popularity of anime such as sword art online goes to show the desire people have to be able to really live in these games, really experience what it is like to be a military sniper or a sword wielding faerie flying across a fantasy landscape.

I know many people who still consider games to be for children, and personally I try to create a certain distance between myself and games due to the health repercussions of spending all my free time playing, but the amazing stories and stimulating challenges offered by well done games are definitely worth it in many cases, and for those who feel these things are childish, I believe simply lack the perspective to understand that difficult games are just as or more complex than a game of chess, and I doubt you’ll find anyone saying chess is bad for you or a waste of time.

I am truly looking forward to the future of gaming, and I hope companies really draw back and focus on quality and storyline and not waste time with cash grabs, forsaking that which makes games truly great.

After all, a great game is as inspiring as a great book, and we all need a little inspiration from time to time.

Starting something new

Starting something is almost always the most difficult aspect of a project. If you think about it, it shouldn’t be, as most tasks require very little effort when first starting off, and yet the mental fortitude it takes to push ourselves into the horrifying act of creating something new is astounding.

It’s the fear.

The fear of failing, the fear of embarrassing yourself, putting all you have into something only for it to tumble into nothingness. The despair we feel after envisioning every possible negative outcome, replete with soul crushing death simply turns most people off of ever getting any project off the ground.

I wish I could impart some great wisdom to the masses on how to overcome this problem, but there really is only one solution.

Tell your brain that even though you’re terrified, you’re going to do this thing anyway and that’s that.

Then do it.

No excuses.

The strange game of sex

Human sexuality is a strange thing.

We are all taking part in this game, attempting to find partners, whether for the short term or long term, and we all know we want to have sex, and yet if we come out and admit it somehow we are considered shallow or perverted, and so we hide the fact, pretend like we don’t want it.

Of course Men and Women go about this hiding in different ways, and so it creates even more confusion as the language we use to subtly let the other person know we are interested bounces off our intended target.

When you take a step back and look at it all, it’s quite hilarious how bad we all are at expressing our desires.

Heck I know I am, so every once in awhile I write a poem to vent my frustrations.

Check it out below, or..not.

Prude.

Finding our limits

We have become a soft society, seeking out ways to maximize our comfort and minimizing any kind of discomfort.

This may seem like a good thing, and it is in some ways, there is nothing inherently wrong with being comfortable and finding more efficient ways to do things, especially when it frees up time to do what you truly wish to do.

But unfortunately this seems to lead us to two different extremes.

There are those who wallow in comfort, never getting out of their comfort zone, and subsequently causing a myriad of psychological and physiological issues in the process. Then we have people who cannot seem to recognize that we all have limits and we need to respect those limits before our systems break down as well.

There is a fine line we must balance upon, the idea is to find your limit and very gently cross it, and then retreat and allow ourselves to adapt over time to a new limit and so on.

But many people just don’t take the time for the¬† introspection it requires to know your limits and overcome them in a healthy manner, while others simply never even begin the search in the first place.

Human beings are adapters, probably the greatest species to ever come into existence on this planet, because our limits, although many, are still radically small compared to the limits of most creatures on this planet.

We should be grateful for this, and push ourselves to be the best we can be, but within reason, and not to the detriment of other things in our lives, like our health and the health and happiness of those we care for.

Find your limits, push them, but remember that life will push back, and it is a hell of a lot stronger than we are.