Make the right choice

Nature is our beginning and our end. We are birthed into this world with no purpose other than survival and procreation. But although our primary purpose may seem meaningless in the grand scheme of things, nature has allowed us a wide breadth of experience and choices in between birth and death to find joy and create our own inner purpose.

We are left with only 2 truly important choices in this life.

We must choose in our minds the reason why we wish to live, and how we wish to face our inevitable deaths.

Unbound, with courage.

Or filled with fear and ignorance.

Make the right choice.

Being kind vs nice

There is an epidemic of nice people raging through the world at this moment, and I don’t mean it in a good way.

Everywhere I turn I see people who have no backbone, who are so afraid to have a personality that they just smile and nod to everything everyone around them says, they stand for nothing and accomplish nothing.

These same people will get caught up in the internet wars, becoming little social justice warriors, but they have put zero effort into actually researching and understanding any of the topics they are raging about.

They are just putting on this nice person act.

Kindness is a different thing.

A kind person does something out of genuine empathy, they are the kind of people who radiate a kind of warmth whenever you’re around them, they bring a sense of calm to whatever situation they are involved in because they are compassionate people.

That is because truly kind people are strong. They know who they are and what they stand for and are not afraid to get their hands dirty. They don’t waste their time moaning and complaining on twitter and facebook, they are out there in the trenches, whether it’s in their own cities or out in the world, they are melding thought with action.

I have met very few genuinely kind people in my life. When I do, they make me feel guilty simply by existing and being who they are.  They inspire and make me want to be a better person.

We desperately need more people like that in our lives, and I wish that social media platforms would highlight more of these people, instead of popularizing this fake let me be nice to the homeless person so I can get a million likes on my page kind of people.

We can do better folks, there are beautiful people all around us.

Listen to your inner child

From when we are very young we find delight in the simplest of actions and joy in the discovery of new things. As we grow older, we maintain that curiosity, until it is beaten out of us by school and work and the people around us who have lost sight of what it means to be Human.

People talk about finding your passion, finding what makes you happy, and most of us have no idea what that means.

The reality is that no matter your age, each of us is a child still. We hit these culturally decided upon numbers and somehow we are supposed to be an adult, but we are all of us just children pretending to know more than we actually do.

If you want to enjoy life, then do not let school or work or your culture determine how you are supposed to think or act, even when it is some guru telling you that to be happy you just need to find something you’re passionate about.

Just listen to that inner voice in your head that has been around since you were a small child, the one that giggles and wants to just scream in public because it feels great, and whenever it is screaming the loudest, listen to it, because that may be the thing you are going to be able to take the greatest joy in.

As a side note, that voice can be hijacked by drugs and negative emotions so don’t just let it go nuts, there is a reason we developed consciousness, to put a brake on the primitive side of us that wants to just go crazy at every opportunity, so stay cautious.

But if something passes the test and is a genuine pleasure of yours, go all in.

You never know where it may lead you.

 

Pride

Pride is probably one of the most self destructive of our emotions. It is responsible for causing so many wars and broken families and friendships that its removal could quite possibly change the face of how Humans interact.

I doubt that will ever happen though, so we must learn to mitigate its effects.

One of the easiest ways to learn to control pride is to ask for help.

Do it every day, for small things, for big things, for anything you can think of, just go up to someone, friend or stranger, and ask them for some help.

Asking for help is admitting that you are not perfect, you don’t know everything, you can’t control everything and you never will.

It’s learning to be humble and connect with the greater mass of Humans around you and being part of the community, even in the smallest of ways.

And asking for help and receiving aid is the greatest way I know to becoming receptive to helping others, which builds up our communities even more.

Just ask, it won’t hurt.

Writing a book is weird

I have been a voracious reader since a very young age.

My brain is packed full of fantastical stories, and I am quite confident that is why I have almost zero capacity to remember things in my life, as my hard drive is obviously full, so don’t blame me when I forget your birthday..or your name.

Recently as I have been traveling through south-east Asia(currently in Vietnam if anyone wants to meet up!) I decided to buckle down and actually make an attempt to write a book.

I have had 3 major book ideas filtering through my head over the last decade, but I never bothered to try to write anything because the idea of trying to create dialogue just confused me immensely. Even 4 chapters into the book now, I still feel utterly weird writing out people on paper talking to each other, yet it has been a fascinating experience as well.

Really delving into who I want a character to be, whether or not the action they just took makes sense with who they are, the detail I want to give to the environment they are interacting with is all so exhilarating and utterly frustrating. It has definitely helped me appreciate the incredible effort and creativity my favorite authors put into the books they wrote.

I am thinking to post each chapter at some point, once it’s been edited a bit, to get peoples feelings on how the story is and where I can improve things that don’t make sense.

We are at over 200 followers now, which is so weird to me to think that 200 people take time in their days to read what I have to say( I am truly grateful, I love you all!),  and I would love to be able to interact with you all more and know what you’re thinking about all this.

So I am not sure when I will be brave enough to share the first chapter but it will happen eventually, until then this is a shout out to everyone out there writing a book and struggling to not burn it and hide away in a corner crying.

Be strong.

Words worth hearing Vol. 7

Each of us has a responsibility to share our gifts with the world so that we can make it just a bit better for the next generation, so never hide what brings you joy, shout it out to the world.  Create and create some more to get away from those destructive tendencies we all have.

 

“Does what goes on inside show on the outside? Someone has a great fire in their soul and nobody ever comes to warm themselves at it, and passers-by see nothing but a little smoke at the top of the chimney”. 

-Vincent Van Gogh

“There is an awful lot of anger in the world, and in me, and that there is a real need to be creative with it rather than destructive. I think of violence as basically useless; it doesn’t solve anything. The more violence you create the more violence you have. So it really is an inconvenience. It’s like lying; if you lie, you’re constantly trying to remember what you lied about and how you lied. With violence, if you create it, you’re always trying to figure out why you did it or how to deal with the messiness of it or, later on, how to absolve yourself. Much better to create something, much better to talk”.

-Alice Walker