Being kind vs nice

There is an epidemic of nice people raging through the world at this moment, and I don’t mean it in a good way.

Everywhere I turn I see people who have no backbone, who are so afraid to have a personality that they just smile and nod to everything everyone around them says, they stand for nothing and accomplish nothing.

These same people will get caught up in the internet wars, becoming little social justice warriors, but they have put zero effort into actually researching and understanding any of the topics they are raging about.

They are just putting on this nice person act.

Kindness is a different thing.

A kind person does something out of genuine empathy, they are the kind of people who radiate a kind of warmth whenever you’re around them, they bring a sense of calm to whatever situation they are involved in because they are compassionate people.

That is because truly kind people are strong. They know who they are and what they stand for and are not afraid to get their hands dirty. They don’t waste their time moaning and complaining on twitter and facebook, they are out there in the trenches, whether it’s in their own cities or out in the world, they are melding thought with action.

I have met very few genuinely kind people in my life. When I do, they make me feel guilty simply by existing and being who they are.  They inspire and make me want to be a better person.

We desperately need more people like that in our lives, and I wish that social media platforms would highlight more of these people, instead of popularizing this fake let me be nice to the homeless person so I can get a million likes on my page kind of people.

We can do better folks, there are beautiful people all around us.

Your body is more than just click bait

There are many training methods vying for dominance in the world. With the rise of social media platforms such as instagram, it’s become easy for people to use their bodies to push ways of training that MIGHT get you to look good naked, but most definitely do not build a healthy mindset towards movement and fitness.

For obvious reasons, aesthetics have been the primary concern of most people looking to get in shape, and although there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to look good naked to attract a partner, when coupled with social media, it starts to create problems for those who want people to train intelligently and with a broader view so that goals go further than just losing weight or gaining muscle.

For those of us whos interests tend to lie more with books and games and the finer things in life( YES, BOOKS ARE THE FINER THINGS IN LIFE!) , this can be especially problematic.

When you spend most of your time in your own head instead of deep within your whole body, you lose connection and the capacity to move as well as you should. It is very easy to push aside this need to move and say it’s stupid or useless or just for jocks, and seeing the social media crazed “look at my body” attention seeking we see all the time, it makes it even easier to just consider it not worth your time. 

Couple that with a general lethargy from sitting on your ass so much, and you have a bad combination if you want people to take care of themselves. It gets even more difficult when the large majority of people who do start to care about their health, tend to get all their examples of fitness from people who are just focused on looks, instead of the dysfunction we create in our modern society. Excessive sitting, phone usage, and an overall lack of knowledge as to how our bodies should work has created a group of people who move like sick, elderly people. 

We need a paradigm shift, one where we care about how good we look naked, but as a subset of our overall focus on being able to move well, be strong, and  age in a way that allows us to live as optimally as possible with the least amount of problems. 

Learn to enjoy your body. Explore it, develop it just like you would your mind, expand it’s horizons, get comfortable with it and grow into a better, stronger human that won’t be limited in any way.

And look damn good naked while you’re at it.